ALEX JAYNE

I just want to start off by saying anyone that has ever been my friend and we have had the opportunity to create memories together, I am so thankful to have you in my life, even if we don’t talk a lot anymore. As my dance teacher once said “life is like a revolving door, people come and go at different times.” Ps. I love having this as a space to talk about topics I don’t have the guts to talk about on youtube, so if you’re reading this, thank you.

I really have never had that one friend I was “attached at the hip” with. I’ve really always wanted that. Some may say I did have that with a person, or people, but I would want that to be with someone I feel so comfortable with and that actually watches the same TV shows as I did etc. Maybe I always wanted that because I am an only child so having that like close family friend would have be nice. I say that mainly during childhood years. I don’t think that really applies to adulthood because I mean no one really has sleepovers at this age LOL!

Childhood

When I say childhood I’m talking about basically kindergarten – 12th grade. My childhood friends were awesome. Even if a couple left my side through the years. Early on I had two really close friends, both were pretty strong willed to say the least. Me being the timed more reserved person, I kinda just followed their lead until one day some drama happened and one of the girls left our little “group”. The one that stayed with me was probably my friend because it was very convenient. We danced at the same studio, and went to the same school, until I went to another school. That girl really did teach me to have a back bone and stand up for myself early on. For that, I am grateful.

I had this one friend who I have never felt more close to, even though we barely speak today I still really like her and wish her well. When I say we don’t speak, I mean we don’t hang out at all, no drama happened and we still interact on social media a little. I do believe she watches my videos. As kids she would always come over and swim with her family. We played dress up, we both watched Disney Channel and played “High School Musical” all the time! I was Sharpay and she was Gabriella. I loved it!! We grew apart when she moved and left my school, but did still keep in contact for a while. Now, I think we just have different interests and life ya know.. But I will say she is the one I felt most comfortable around ever. I could truly be myself. This girl was probably the closest person to be that “attached at the hip” with friend.

Dance. Where do I begin?! All of my dance friends I adore so much. I probably would do anything for them. We really don’t talk much now either, but I do see them very rarely. They really are the people who shaped me into the person I am today. I had so much fun at sleepovers and pool parties, but I will say it was kind of hard to keep up with. I sometimes felt like I was always “on” meaning like giving so much energy and knowing me and my introverted self, that was hard. You always had to be at the right place at the right time to like be invited to certain things that would just pop up. I mean it’s not anything anyone could control, but like after a rehearsal someone would be like let’s go to Menchies (a frozen yogurt place) and those people that were there at that time would obviously go. Again, no ones fault it was just hard to see a group of people getting pizza together and you weren’t there, but that happens when you’re not there at that certain rehearsal for a dance you’re not in, or not in the lobby when that is getting planned. Thank goodness social media wasn’t as big as it is today. I mean it was still there but it’s not like it is now. That was probably the hardest part, but that’s another lesson to learn. One great thing about dance friends was that they really got me away from a friend that was sometimes not the nicest. I worked really hard to get into another “level” at the time and when I did it was the best feeling ever and I was with my group of friends all the time. It was so great and I miss those days so much.

During Middle/High school I had amazing people man. They were all so different and had many talents. It was so fun to have other dancers that went to other studios dance with me at school. When I first started at OCSA (my middle/high school) I made so many friends fast. That environment was really welcoming. I still talk and see my school friends on occasion. Most of them live pretty far or are out of state. I do still keep in contact with one on a regular basis which is nice. Throughout high school I couldn’t wait for it to be over, but looking back those were great times and I had such good people in my life. We all had common interests, knew the same people, had inside jokes and more. I also loved that a lot of them knew my dance friends because of dance competitions etc. It was also cool because a lot of them didn’t live near me so they knew a ton more people. I didn’t really go to high school parties, maybe only one, that was because I was always with my dance friends. I will say I started getting closer to my high school friends junior and senior year because I quit competitive dance, so I wasn’t at the studio much. I do appreciate that these high school friends I have still make an effort to keep in contact and see me when they come into town, or I go somewhere where they are.

Adulthood

Boy I wish they told you having friends during adulthood is a lot harder! I can say my childhood really did provide me with “built in” friends. During college it is so hard to make friends! I was going to join a sorority (which I should have), but I didn’t.. another story for another time. Since I am introverted it’s hard to just go and talk to people in classes; I never went to bars. I always saw people in college just hanging out with their high school friends, that’s just from my point of view. So let’s just say college was a bust for social life. I did meet a nice guy friend, who I still keep in contact with today which is nice.

I found more friends when I started working at Universal; they were around my age and we had some stuff in common. They were cool, but other than work I don’t know what we had in common? LOL I did learn fast and my mom did tell me you make friends as an adult at work pretty much.

I did meet one of my closest friends today online. We both loved social media and it was awesome! No we didn’t work together, or go to the same school (even though we both went UCF at the same time, but didn’t know each other existed), but we did have a common interest which is why I think our friendship is still strong. Even though she does not have a social media presence, we still have things to talk about, common interests, loves taking cute pics, have shared experiences etc. I have learned a lot from our friendship, not bad things, just having a different experience with not really having her be a “built in” friend, being exposed to other new people that I might not have common interests with and more. I am so grateful to have met her!

Looking forward

So I do have some amazing people still in my life and I know I will meet so many more. I am pushing myself to become more open and join more clubs, starting off with Cyclebar. I really wanted to meet more people and I did just that. I am happy to have built a new friendship from that and I am looking forward to meeting more people the more I become involved in other groups and clubs.

In conclusion

Overall I have met and have some amazing people in my life. I love that I have met all sorts of people and they have taught me many things. I do like to keep a tight few people to call good friends. I personally don’t like huge groups of people. For some reason it’s hard for me to push in and be included lol. I like stability, and reliability when it comes to friends. I hope to make more really good quality friends throughout my adulthood!

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Have a great day 🙂

Alex